Kate Putnam
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What to say when someone needs you.
Just say something.
It doesn’t have to be deep, but it does need to be kind. Remember to always be kind. When someone you know is going through a difficult time, ignoring the elephant in the room will not help. Don’t tell them to be strong, don’t tell them you know how they feel. Just be.
But, three words can mean so much; “Are you ok?”
People don’t forget who was there when things got tough. When someone dies or there is a personal crisis, I promise you, a grieving person will remember. And as you are feeling uncomfortable about reaching out to someone you know, just do it. You don’t have to say anything. You can just drop off some food. You can call and say hello. Remind them that you’re just a phone call away. But don’t abandon them. Because as they rebuild, they will not forget.
Be a good friend.
Be brave. Be strong. Because, when it’s your turn you’ll be grateful for those people who were there for you. Say things like; “I’m thinking of you” or “What can I do?” or “Do you need anything?” Judging and gossiping will not win friends and influence people. We all know that.
When the sun wasn’t shining.
Things got tough. I can count on one hand the people that were there for me, and I will forever be grateful for their loyalty. As I am rebuilding my life and letting go of the anger and feelings of abandonment, I’m working on forgiving those people I thought I could trust and loved who weren’t there. I know I made these decisions protecting someone I loved and I’m paying for them now.
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Love doesn’t hurt.
But when your friends break up and you have to pick sides. Then, things get a little bit more complicated. Throughout my life, my girlfriends are usually on the guys side. Something I need to work on because I just check out and make super self destructive decisions. So, when someone you love has made a decision that landed them on the front page of the paper or an entire small town is talking about it. Just reach out to them. Give them a call. Tell them you’re thinking of them. It’s awkward. It’s hard. But, trust me they won’t forget who was there when the sun wasn’t shining.
You can’t fix it but you can make it better.
Let’s go over this again. Say things like; “I love you”, “I’m thinking of you”, “I’m here for you”. Remember to be. Be there. Be kind. And, be present.
Because, one of these days, you’ll need someone to pick you up. And, you’ll be happy they’re there.
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